Getting Over the Overwhelm
The last couple of weeks have been quite stressful for me as social media tools and technical problems with course administration just weren’t cooperating.
Couple that with keeping up with my own education through online workshops/seminars, and, managing a household, with pets, grown children and grandchildren in and out, and meeting off premises with clients.
I was ready to throw the towel in. Too many interruptions, until I remembered my own advice to clients that I used to use as a child to quell my unhappiness and anxiety.
I’m sharing this with you and adding a feng shui twist to it. Print this out and apply it to yourself. It works. If it doesn’t, call me. I will give you a free session that is customized to you. Actually, I hope you all call me or private message me.
Feeling over whelmed, anxious and stressed day-in and day-out can wear on your productivity and creativity. Women seem to suffer from various levels of anxiety depending on what time of year, such as school starting, job pressures, holiday goals and entertaining, family communication issues, caring for a parent and more.
How about if I get to point and share some tips that will prepare you for the rest of the year and beyond. When things seem to be closing in on me I always go back to the checklist I’m sharing with you here.
Let’s start first with what do you want for you? Here are your steps:
- First, forget about your obligations at this moment and think about what you want for you. Give yourself some uninterrupted time to work on this.
- Create a checklist of all the things you do now and want to remove from your daily, weekly, obligations related to others as well as things.
- Hubby, children and obligations are not as important as you are at this moment and will still be there when you come through on the other end. The difference will be that the anxiety won’t be there and you will know what is important to you and how to drop things that aren’t.
- Just say NO! Make a list of all the obligations you have attracted to you because you are so good at doing them and “no one else can do it better” belief. After all, you can fix things later when you are less stressed. By then a lot of them will be taken care of by some other abled-body person in your life.
Now for the fun! This is the only list on which you need to focus.
- All the things I’ve been wanting to do but can’t find the time. Hmmm. Delete one thing from the list you made in #2 above. Replace it with one thing from your new list of what you “want” to do.
- Add that “want” to your day or week, however you want to start this transition.
- The next week repeat #1 and #2 adding a second “want” to your list. A lot of the stressful things that cause anxiety are your emotional responses to pressure that doesn’t need to be there. You control that by the word “NO.”
- No excuses of “I can’t do this because no one will have clean clothes.” So the worst that could happen is they wear dirty clothes or do the laundry. Instructions can be created and hung on the wall for whomever this task has been delegated.
Feng Shui recommendation: add a picture or other symbol that talks to you about what you would rather be doing. Take a selfie and print it out. Cut your face from the printout or cut yourself from a picture already taken, a full body one if you like. Now put it in the picture so you can visualize yourself doing it. This is all about you remember. For example, imagine you in a boat floating in a Cezanne painting. Now position the picture you cut out, in the boat. Thinking about just doing it makes me feel ready to relax right now. Seeing it daily can remind you to relax and let life float by for awhile.
- Feng Shui recommendation: Now, put on some of your favorite relaxing music. Don’t forget to think ab0ut the vision you created with the picture. Match the the music with the scene. One more thing: incorporate aroma. Something that fits with the vision you’ve created. If your picture is a more energetic one, the music should be also. Next, bring in some texture that you miss in your life…silk, satin, chenille or other texture that you relate to. And absolutely, bring in the CHOCOLATE! WINE, maybe some reflexology on the feet. I do this once a week and no less than once a month. Every little bit helps.
- Feng Shui helps you mimic the law of attraction The key here is the visualization that you create for yourself. Funny, after awhile, when you’re out and about, the aroma you chose wafts in the air. Immediately you begin your mantra of relaxing without even realizing it’s happening. Stress and anxiety disappear. Muscles relax. The mind goes to the picture. Or, you sample an outfit that has the texture you love in the fabric. Again, you triggered a relax response. Over time, this becomes the norm.
- Do you see where I’m going with this? Without even noticing it, your anxiety begins to dissipate as you have created a tool to use when it creeps up on you.
Life is not always a bowl of cherries but we can at least manage it with the right tools. What I’ve just shared with you I use myself. Running a high producing business model as well as teaching others to do the same can be quite daunting. My job is to make my clients successful and high earners. That in itself produces high anxiety. Especially when technical problems arise and I can’t help my clients.